Let’s say James is at the park, I will text and say, I don’t see u, where are u? Just to stress him out if he’s up to no good. He’ll reply with, I’m on the benches mom, where are you? I’ll say umm, home, just checking on you.
Or I’ll text Jaden and say, hurry up, get ur mess cleaned up, I’ll be there in 2 minutes, when I’m still 25 minutes away… just to make him hustle.
Or if James has a friend over and I’m not home yet, I’ll get a random text from him that says, where are you? (folks, in James’ speak, this “where are you” is code for “I’m doing something I shouldn’t be doing, and therefore I will be needing your ETA so that I can have it cleaned up and/or thrown away prior to your arrival”), so I always respond to that one with… Just down the street James, sup?
Tee hee.
I'll word my texts to James very carefully to get him to reveal unnecessary things, i.e. James, what is it that you did at school today? instead of, how was school? Because now instead of the normal good, I get, what do you mean, did someone call? Ah, now I have him hooked... Not sure, got a message, haven't checked it, you wanna tell me before I listen? Sigh, my poor baby, has a lot to learn about revealing too much info. Now he says, umm, maybe the dean, but listen mom, I didn't do it, let me tell you.... (In case you don't know James, he never did it. ever. whatever "it" happens to be, he. didn't. do. it.) This one works like a charm.
Texting, gotta love it.
I talk to moms of friends that the boys have no idea I even know. We like to keep these relationships on the down-low as we find the humor in revealing information to the children that they have no idea how we would even know. This one really has no parenting value whatsoever... it's just fun. And maybe it's not lying, it's simply withholding information. (Umm, side note, in an adult relationship, withholding information equals lying, in parenting, we make up our own rules.)
Am I the only one that does these things?
(Wait, maybe I don't want to know)
Oh and... Happy Birthday Mom!
18 comments:
Nope, all good parents lie to their kids to a certain degree! Works like a charm :)
does he still read your blog???
i wouldn't call them lies... just parenting ideas, and good ones, too!
love you
He doesn’t check it as much as he used to. But it doesn’t matter, he’s only 13. If I said what’d u do at school today, I have a message on my phone, should I check it?... he’s not gonna call my bluff, he’s not that smart yet.
Love it I might have to save it somewhere for when my boys are older I love that
I don't do this but I am totally going to start. You are so clever.
This post makes me want to have kids IMMEDIATELY.
this will backfire on you one day. mark my words.
but until it does, exploit the hell out of it.
Well, I've learned some new parenting tips for when my boys are old enough for cell phones. See, you really should write a parenting book. I've said it before.
LOVE THIS!!!!!!! I am with you all the way and it's not really lying! NO MATTER what the golden rules say!
Just tell the truth sometimes so they don't know when to expect what. That's the key. =).
I know that I do. I thought all parents did at one point or another. *lol*
hey girl no your not the only mom who lies to their kids.
hey its are way of parenting and we as moms gotta do what we gotta to be good parents. mt son is 15 years old i can still do some of the things you mentioned but hes starting to get a hint on some of the things so i decided to switch it up a bit hehehe but it still works like a charm
Its not lying at all...just the necessary parenting tricks to stay ahead! Love that you do it and admit it.
I also manipulate the eta and other "stress" factors. I have almost 16 y-o-twins and it is imperative that I keep my (text)eyes on them, lol!
Old age and treachery will always outsmart youth and vigor. Gina
I'm not going to judge anyone, but I would not do this with my kids. I want to be able to trust my kids so I teach them how to trust me as well. Open communication is key. And boundaries. If I don't trust my kids with something, I wait until I can before I give my permission.
Umm, not judging anyone, saying your thoughts, you're entitled. If all so good and righteous... where's your name? Why go with Anonymous? Interesting way to stand up for yourself.
Katie,
Anonymous Commenters kill me!
You know the name of the game!
They always go with Anonymous when they have something to say but, aren't willing to stand up and say who they are.
If you want, I can help you track down the IP address and you can have a little 'chat' with Anonymous!
Check your email! :)
Humph!
Wow can I give my children to Anon for some gold star parenting?? 'Cos my husband and I use every trick in the book to keep one step ahead of ours... lying is very very useful for trying to keep in the loop with teenage boys who turn mute and hibernate lol!
Kind Regards
Elizabeth
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